Affirmations can be a simple way to address your fears and make progress in a non-threatening way. Affirmations are just positive statements that you make to yourself that have the potential to change the way you think and behave.
Affirmations seem simple on the surface, but there are several details that must be understood in order to use them effectively.
- Keep affirmations positive. Affirmations work better if theyâre positive rather than negative. For example:
- âI am not afraid of heightsâ isnât as effective as âI find heights exhilaratingâ.
- Your brain has a better understanding of what youâre trying to accomplish if your affirmations are stated in the affirmative.
- Negative statements seem to confuse the part of your brain that youâre trying to reach. You might end up with more of what you’re trying to avoid!
- Use the present tense. Itâs also important to keep your statements in the present tense. The affirmation âI will be brave around womenâ is stated in the future. If this affirmation actually came true, youâd never be brave around women because this is a character trait that you plan to have in the future!
- âI am courageous when speaking to womenâ is a more effective affirmation.
- Avoid using too many. Repeating 150 affirmations means that you canât repeat them too often or youâd never do anything else. Too many affirmations also scatter your attention over too many items. Five to ten affirmations are about right.
- Use them regularly. Repeat your affirmations a few times each day. Preferably at least three times if youâre serious. Thatâs three times every single day. Itâs only a few minutes each time. You have time for that.
- Make your own. There are endless lists of affirmations but be choosy. Find affirmations that appeal to you or make your own. The most effective affirmations are the ones that you create but look at the affirmations of others for ideas.
- The best affirmations elicit an emotion. Every affirmation you choose to use should make you feel something when you repeat it. Affirmations with an emotional jolt are more effective.
- We like to think weâre logical, but we really arenât. If we were actually driven by logic, weâd never overeat, skip the gym, or procrastinate. Logic only shows us what we should do, but often fail to do.
- Visualize. Have an image in your mind that represents your affirmation. It might be you eating a healthy meal, meeting the person of your dreams, or fearlessly giving a speech. If you canât imagine it, you canât accomplish it.
- Make use of the time just after waking up and just before falling asleep. The two best times to repeat affirmations is right when you wake up and right before you fall asleep. Youâre in that dreamy, half-awake state. Itâs like you have a direct connection to your subconscious.
Affirmations are a free, easy, and effective tool that can help you to rise above your fears.
If you have fears, and who doesnât, add affirmations to your toolbox. Affirmations can be useful in getting over the hump to the point where you can take action. Thatâs all you really need. You donât need to be fearless. The fear just needs to be reduced enough that youâre able to pull the trigger.
Begin by making a list of affirmations today. Give them a try for 30 days and decide for yourself if theyâre worth your effort. You have nothing to lose!