Judging others isnât just a diversion. Itâs toxic to you and everyone around you. Judging others is similar to gossiping. It makes others think less of you. Youâll also find that the harder you are on other people, the harder youâll be toward yourself.
Judging others is a way of controlling your environment, but the negative repercussions make it a poor life strategy.
What do you gain by judging others?
- Itâs a huge waste of time. Judging others accomplishes nothing. You could spend that time exercising, reading, listening to music, supporting a friend, or taking a nap.
- People donât trust you. If youâre informing others around you of your negative judgements, they wonât trust you in the future. They know itâs only a matter of time before you judge them, too.
- Do you like to be around negative people? Do you trust them?
- It makes you look bad. Itâs poor form to criticize others behind their back. Even if youâre complaining about the quality of someoneâs lawn, itâs still being negative and unpleasant. Well-adjusted people avoid spontaneously spouting negative opinions.
- You open yourself up to judgement from others. When you judge people, they feel justified in judging you, too. Interestingly, you probably wouldnât appreciate that very much! Youâre likely to be treated in the same way you treat others.
- Judging others negatively impacts your mood. You donât feel better for long after you judge someone else. Youâre acting on a negative impulse, which leads to a negative outcome and you carry that with you wherever you go.
- Youâre really just trying to protect your ego. The primary reason for judging others is elevating yourself. Itâs easier to drag someone else down than it is to put in the work to make yourself a better person. Spend your time enhancing your life, rather than trying to bring others down.
- Being hard on others is also being hard on yourself. Being critical of others leads to being critical of yourself. Your brain has a hard time distinguishing between being critical of other people and being critical of yourself. It will look for things to criticize if thatâs what you teach it to do.
- Judgement can be a form of selfishness. We tend to dislike those that have things we want but donât have. We want it for ourselves, and we donât want others to have it. This is because it shines a light on the fact that weâve failed to attain it. Let others enjoy the rewards of their hard work.
- Youâre avoiding reality. Many of the things you dislike in others are things that you dislike about yourself. Itâs easier to project these negative qualities out onto other people and acknowledge them at a distance. Itâs a way of hiding from yourself.
Judging others hurts you more than it hurts them. It damages your standing with other people. You make enemies. You think less of yourself. And itâs all negative.
Rather than judge other people, make the necessary changes to enhance the aspects of your life that youâre dissatisfied with. Focus on positive changes to yourself and your own life, and life will become more fulfilling for you.